PART 4: My Husband’s Parents Helped All His Siblings Buy Homes but Gave Us Nothing, So We Bought an Abandoned Property Instead
My Husband’s Parents Helped All His Siblings Buy Homes but Gave Us Nothing, So We Bought an Abandoned Property Instead
I couldn’t say anything for a long time.
Outside, a meadowlark was singing in the weeds. The wind came through the cracked window and moved the loose wallpaper on the wall.
“Opal,” I said finally. “What makes you think the money at Easter came from you?”
She looked at me with those sharp blue eyes.
“Because I’ve known my son for sixty-two years,” she said. “And Ronald has never had twenty thousand dollars to give anybody. Let alone sixty.”
She folded her hands on top of her cane.
“His equipment business has been failing for five years. Judy’s got her credit cards. They refinanced that house twice. I know, because Ronald asked me for a loan for the property taxes in 2022, and I gave him eight thousand dollars, and he never paid it back.”
“So when he stood at the head of that table with his coffee cup—”
“I sat there and watched him hand out three checks,” Opal said. “And I thought, Where did you get that money, Ronald? And then I watched Judy give my grandson a card with a bird on it.”
She was quiet for a moment.
“I should have said something then,” she said. “I didn’t. I was eighty-six and tired and I didn’t want to make a scene at Easter. That was wrong of me. I’ve been sorry ever since.”
“Why me?” I asked her. “Why did you call me? Instead of Nate?”
“Because Nate would drive straight to his father’s house and say something he can’t take back,” Opal said. “He gets that from his mother. Ellen had a temper like a grass fire. Quiet for a long time, and then everything’s burning.”
She almost smiled.
“And because you work in hospital billing. You know what a collection letter means. You know what a supplemental plan is. You know how to read a bank statement.”
“I do.”
“And,” Opal said, “because you’re the only one at that table who wasn’t bought.”
I told Nate that night.
We were sitting on the sagging front porch of the Miller house, eating egg salad sandwiches out of a cooler, watching the sun go down behind the barn.
I told him everything. The doorframe. The pencil marks. The blizzard. The collection letter. The power of attorney. One hundred and ninety-one thousand dollars, down to forty-one.
He didn’t say anything the whole time.
When I was done, he sat very still with half a sandwich in his hand.
His ears were red. Redder than I’d ever seen them.
He put the sandwich down.
Then he stood up, walked to the end of the porch, and hit the corner post with the side of his fist. Once. Hard. The whole porch shook.
He stood there with his back to me for a long time.
“He gave my brothers and sisters twenty thousand dollars,” Nate said finally, very quietly, “out of Grandma’s savings. And then his wife wrote me a card telling me I was capable.”
“Nate—”
“I sold Grandpa’s boat, Callie.” His voice cracked. “I sold Grandpa Raymond’s boat to buy this house. And the whole time, Dad was spending Grandpa Raymond’s money on Jeff’s three-car garage.”
He turned around. His eyes were wet.
“I want to drive over there right now.”
“I know.”
“I want to put him through a wall.”
“I know. That’s why Opal called me instead of you.”
He laughed. A short, broken laugh.
“Of course she did,” he said. “She always was the smartest one in the family.”
He sat back down next to me on the porch. He took my hand. His knuckles were bleeding a little.
“Okay,” he said. “So what do we do?”
“Opal wants to go to the bank,” I said. “Tomorrow. With us. Before Ronald finds out.”
First Farmers & Merchants Bank sits on the corner of Main Street and Third, in a brick building with a clock on the front that has been three minutes slow since 1987.
The branch manager was a woman named Gail Stoddard. She’d been at the bank for thirty years. She’d known Opal since Gail was a teller and Opal came in every Friday to deposit Raymond’s paycheck.
She took us into her office in the back and closed the door.
“Opal,” she said. “I’ve been hoping you’d come in.”
“You knew something was wrong?”
Gail hesitated.
“I can’t say I knew,” she said carefully. “Ron had a valid power of attorney on file. Signed and notarized. Legally, he’s had authority to access your accounts since February of two years ago. But some of the activity—” She stopped. “I had concerns. I just couldn’t do much about them without you.”
“I’m here now,” Opal said. “Show me.”
Gail turned her computer monitor toward us. Then she printed out two years of statements. Checking. Savings. Both CDs.
She laid them on the desk.
Opal put on her reading glasses. I sat beside her and read along. Nate stood behind us with his arms crossed.
I’ve read thousands of financial statements in my life. I read them all day at work.
I’ve never read anything like that one.
02/28 — Transfer to Ronald J. Brenner, Checking — $8,000.00
03/15 — Transfer to Ronald J. Brenner, Checking — $12,500.00
03/22 — Early withdrawal, Certificate of Deposit #2241, penalty $1,187.40 — $50,000.00
03/29 — Cashier’s check, payable to Kimberly A. Brenner-Lowe — $20,000.00
03/29 — Cashier’s check, payable to Jeffrey R. Brenner — $20,000.00
03/29 — Cashier’s check, payable to Stacy L. Brenner — $20,000.00
The three checks were dated March 29th.
Easter was March 31st that year.
Opal put her finger on the three lines and held it there.
She didn’t say anything.
I kept reading.
05/11 — Payment to Ag Credit Services, Loan #4471 (Brenner Equipment) — $38,412.00
08/02 — Payment to Delphi County Treasurer, Parcel #09-14-101-002 — $6,880.00
That was Ron and Judy’s farmhouse. Opal’s money had paid their property taxes.
Recurring — Payment to Capital One, Judith K. Brenner — various amounts — total $11,244.16
11/01 — Recurring payment to Prairie Mutual Insurance — STOPPED BY ACCOUNT HOLDER’S AGENT
That was the line that made my stomach turn.
Two hundred and fourteen dollars a month. Opal’s Medicare supplement. The insurance that would have covered her hip surgery.
He had stopped it.
Probably to save two hundred and fourteen dollars a month.
And two months later, his mother fell on the ice outside Prairie View and broke her hip, and the hospital billed her, and the bill went to an address she never saw, and then to collections.
Gail added it all up on her calculator.
“Since the power of attorney was filed,” she said quietly, “transfers and payments that don’t appear to be for your benefit, Opal, total one hundred forty-eight thousand, six hundred and twelve dollars. And some change.”
Opal took off her reading glasses.
She folded them.
She put them in her purse.
“Gail,” she said. “I want to stop him. Today.”
“I can put a note on the accounts right now,” Gail said. “Flag them for review. But to fully revoke the power of attorney, you’ll want an attorney. A proper one. And I’d suggest you open a new account, in your name only, and move what’s left into it this morning.”
“Then that’s what we’ll do.”
Gail called in a young woman named Jolene, who was a notary. Jolene checked Opal’s driver’s license and watched her sign the new account paperwork. She asked Opal questions. Did she understand what she was signing? Was anyone pressuring her? Did she want to do this?
“Yes,” said Opal. “No. And yes.”
Jolene smiled and stamped the page.
“That’s three more questions than the last notary asked me,” Opal said.
That afternoon, we went to see Martin Vos.
His office was in a little brick building across from the courthouse. Vos & Kemper, Attorneys at Law. Estate Planning, Elder Law, Real Estate. He was in his sixties, tall and stooped, with white hair and a soft voice and a jar of Werther’s candies on his desk.
He read everything Gail had printed. Every line. He took notes on a yellow legal pad.
Then he looked up at Opal.
“Mrs. Brenner,” he said gently, “a power of attorney gives someone the authority to manage your money for you. To pay your bills. To act in your interest. It doesn’t give them permission to give your money away to themselves or their children. Not unless you specifically agreed to that.”
“I never agreed to anything,” Opal said. “I couldn’t find my glasses.”
“Then we have some decisions to make.”
He explained her options, slowly and plainly. He’d draft a revocation of the power of attorney and deliver it to the bank and to Ron. He’d send a letter to Ron, formally requesting an accounting of every dollar he’d spent and asking for the money to be returned. He could also help her report what happened to the sheriff’s office, or to the state’s adult protective services. That was her choice.
“You don’t have to decide all of that today,” he said.
“I’ve decided some of it,” said Opal.
She pulled a piece of paper out of her purse. She’d written on it in her careful, old-fashioned cursive while we waited in the lobby.
“I want to revoke Ronald’s power of attorney,” she said. “Today. And I want a new one. Naming my grandson Nathan, and his wife, Callie. Together. They both have to sign for anything. That way, nobody’s ever alone with my money again.”
Nate made a small sound behind me.
“Grandma,” he said. “You don’t have to—”
“Hush, Nathan. I’m eighty-eight years old. I know what I have to do.”
She turned back to Martin.
“And I want to change my will.”
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